The best trait of a Parent
April 1, 2008 by Munashe
listen do you hear the magic
If you were asked, what would you say would be the absolute best trait of a parent? What is it as a parent do you see as your biggest arsenal in parenting tools. If you were to ask i would say the art of listening.
Let me repeat again so you get me and not drift off, I said the art of listing. As a parent nothing is more important or crucial as the art of listening.
listening is so important that very little compare to it. Have you never heard kids scream and shout that ‘you never listen.’ What do you thing they are saying, it obvious isn’t it, LISTEN.
Many parents have laid down a plot to what parenting is all about, a basic frame in which they see they’re family following. They list features in a family that they think make it great or something. They push the family, and push on the hope that the frame is what good parenting is about.
In the 1960 it were those commercials of the happy family. You see it also in politics, the vision of a father mother, the kids and a dog with angelic faces. The vision is OK, but as a parent focus more on listening. listening is the only thing you really need as a parent. If you had nothing but could listen, you would be OK.
Here are tips
- Do not interrupt when talking
- Never yell, condescend or saying anything negative in the conversation.
- If you have nothing good to say, walk away
- Empathize more, say things like it must be hard
More tips coming soon, if you can bookmark me now, thanks.
Update
The parenting-blog also wrote about listening, the link is here, worth a read.
Funny I stumbled on your posting. Right now I am going through many, many lessons in being a effective and understanding parent/role model. I currently have 5 children most being under 7 except one. She is ten and wild. I see how easy it is for me to open my mouth and be judgmental or negative without even trying, the reaction I get from her is far from the responce I am trying to obtain from her. Your posting made me think. Though I know these things it always different to see them on paper in front of you!
Thank you!
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I appreciate your insight. I’m always looking for good content from the kids perspective.
I’m actually in the middle of a series on taking the mystery out of communicating with your teenagers and I’m posting tomorrow with the Rules to the Talking Game.
Listening is the science of parenting. Learning to ask the right questions that empathize with the kid….now that’s the art.